Not a story but a poem I wrote from Leelah’s pov for my poetry final

My name is Leelah Alcorn and I refuse to fade
I can’t let my death be just another statistic
one more kid that just couldn’t handle it
that’s not who I am and I refuse to be
it was 2:30 am walking in the freezing cold
wind slapping my face as I walk alone
I know what I’m about to do
but I can’t help but think how I got here
how my life fell into a pit of darkness
that I can’t seem to get out of as I gasp for breath
how can I live on this earth when I feel like I’m being buried beneath it
A mother, supposed to love and support you
A mother, who embodies warm hugs and laughter
A mother, filled with care and affection
why do I feel like this is all I lived without
My mother, who said it was against her faith, that God doesn’t make mistakes
My mother, who said I’d never truly be a girl, that I was wrong
never tell your trans children that, even if you’re against it
all it does is make them hate themselves
How can you expect Christian therapist to help depression
When all they say is I’m being selfish and should look to God for help
How do you expect me to get better
When they’re all biased and tell me I’m wrong just like my mother did
She says she loves her son, that he’s a good boy
but I am not her son
I’m not a he, I’m me
A girl realized it at four years old
How can she not grasp it now
I’m gonna be buried in a suit six feet under the ground
with the name Josh Alcorn across the grave
but that is not how I identify
You isolate me from everyone and everything
because I don’t fit your white picket fence family
because I’m different you find me an embarrassment
I’m not your perfect, little, straight, Christian boy cause that’s not what I wanted
you took me out of school, took my laptop, my phone
no way to get on social media, alone, kept away from my friends
I was so depressed surprised I didn’t kill myself then
five months this went on when I realized my “friends” didn’t even care at all
after a summer with no friends I knew I’d never successfully transition
with thinking about college, money, grades, going to church, feeling like shit every week
where they’re against everything I believe
I’ll never be happy with who I am
That’s what got me here, in the dark on the side of the road
I can see the headlight as I stand in the cold
I can hear the horn right before it hits
and then I’m fading into nothingness
Life is a board game and sometimes you give up before you can win
My life is like Monopoly where sometimes you lose everything
I was screwed from the start
because my head and my heart didn’t match the parts
don’t tell me you understand when you still think I’m a man
cause you see gender physically instead of mentally
you’re just as closed minded as the rest of my family
if there is one thing that I wish after this it’s for you to “Fix Society”
To have someone see how many trans kids did what I did and say
“That’s fucked up” and want it to change
so people aren’t treated like me
because they are humans with valid feelings
My name is Leelah Josh Alcorn and I know what I’ve done
My death has to mean something… to someone

Hi, I’m K. G.

I’m a 20 year old FtM with a loving and supportive family and group of friends. That’s it. I haven’t suffered any bullying or abuse because of who I am. Sure, I was bullied for being a nerd but I didn’t come out as trans until I dropped out of highschool. Yes I experience extreme bouts of dysphoria, usually about once a month. *wink wink, nudge nudge* No I am not a tragic story like most of the others you’ve heard about, or maybe you are experiencing yourself. I thought it would be refreshing to show you that people and, yes society, are changing. The world is changeing! Unfortunately, some people are afraid of change so be careful of those people. If you’re a trans individual, gender-fluid, or non-Binary person: don’t worry, they can’t tell. Go to whichever bathroom you wanna use. What everyone else thinks is none of your business. It’s 2015 not 1915. There is hope.

Congress has Drafted a Bill

Congress has drafted a resolution that if made into a bill and passed would outlaw conversion therapy toward Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender people.  The actual resolution can be found here.  We are looking for your continued support in getting your representatives to join as cosponsors of this resolution so we can see it pass through to Obama’s desk.

Here is the current text of the resolution:

CONCURRENT RESOLUTION

Expressing the sense of Congress that conversion therapy, including efforts by mental health practitioners to change an individual’s sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression, is dangerous and harmful and should be prohibited from being practiced on minors.

Whereas being lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or gender nonconforming is not a disorder, disease, illness, deficiency, or shortcoming;

Whereas the American Psychological Association’s 2008 resolution on Transgender, Gender Identity, and Gender Expression Non-discrimination states that “discrimination and prejudice against people based on their actual or perceived gender identity or expression detrimentally affects psychological, physical, social, and economic well-being”;

Whereas the development of all children and adolescents into healthy and productive adults is a national priority and ending prejudice and injustice based on sexual orientation and gender nonconformity is a human rights issue;

Whereas the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Counseling Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the American Psychological Association, the American School Counselor Association, the National Association of School Psychologists, and the National Association of Social Workers, together representing more than 480,000 health and mental health professionals, have all taken the position that homosexuality is not a mental disorder and thus is not something that needs to be or can be “cured”;

Whereas the American Psychological Association, American Psychiatric Association, National Association of Social Workers, American Counseling Association Governing Council, and American Psychoanalytic Association have not found “conversion therapy to be safe or effective”;

Whereas the American School Counselor Association’s 2014 statement on the Professional School Counselor and LGBT Youth clarifies that “professional school counselors do not support efforts by licensed mental health professionals to change a student’s sexual orientation or gender identity as these practices have been proven ineffective and harmful”;

Whereas the American Psychiatric Association has opposed since 2000 “any psychiatric treatment, such as ‘reparative’ or conversion therapy, which is based upon the assumption that homosexuality per se is a mental disorder or based upon the a priori assumption that a patient should change his/her homosexual orientation”;

Whereas the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry published a practice principles in 2012 in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry stating Principle 6: “Clinicians should be aware that there is no evidence that sexual orientation can be altered through therapy, and that attempts to do so may be harmful,” and finding that “There is no empirical evidence adult homosexuality can be prevented if gender nonconforming children are influenced to be more gender conforming. Indeed, there is no medically valid basis for attempting to prevent homosexuality, which is not an illness. On the contrary, such efforts may encourage family rejection and undermine self-esteem, connectedness and caring, important protective factors against suicidal ideation and attempts. … Given that there is no evidence that efforts to alter sexual orientation are effective, beneficial or necessary, and the possibility that they carry the risk of significant harm, such interventions are contraindicated.”;

Whereas the American Psychoanalytic Association updated its position statement in June 2012, on attempts to change sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression, and in the statement the association states “As with any societal prejudice, bias against individuals based on actual or perceived sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression negatively affects mental health, contributing to an enduring sense of stigma and pervasive self-criticism through the internalization of such prejudice. Psychoanalytic technique does not encompass purposeful attempts to ‘convert’, ‘repair’, and change or shift an individual’s sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression. Such directed efforts are against fundamental principles of psychoanalytic treatment and often result in substantial psychological pain by reinforcing damaging internalized attitudes.”;

Whereas in 2010, the World Professional Association for Transgender Health released a statement urging the de-pathologization of gender variance in which it states “The expression of gender characteristics, including identities, that are not stereotypically associated with one’s assigned sex at birth is a common and culturally diverse human phenomenon which should not be judged as inherently pathological or negative.”;

Whereas research by Caitlyn Ryan et al. entitled “Family Rejection as a Predictor of Negative Health Outcomes in White and Latino Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Adults” published in 2009, found that certain young people experienced conversion therapy as a form of family rejection, and that minors who experience family rejection based on their sexual orientation face especially serious health risks and that such youth were 8.4 times more likely to report having attempted suicide, 5.9 times more likely to report high levels of depression, and 3.4 times more likely to use illegal drugs compared with peers from families that reported no or low levels of family rejection; and

Whereas several States have enacted or are considering legislation and other measures to prohibit conversion therapy in children and adolescents: Now, therefore, be it

Resolved by the House of Representatives (the Senate concurring),

SECTION 1. SHORT TITLE.

This resolution may be cited as the “Stop Harming Our Kids Resolution of 2015”.

SEC. 2. SENSE OF CONGRESS REGARDING CONVERSION THERAPY DIRECTED AT MINORS.

(a) In General.—It is the sense of Congress that conversion therapy directed at minors is discredited and ineffective, has no legitimate therapeutic purpose, and is dangerous and harmful.

(b) State Encouragement.—Congress encourages each State to take steps to protect minors from efforts that promote or promise to change sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression based on the premise that being lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or gender nonconforming is a mental illness or developmental disorder that can or should be cured.

(c) Conversion Therapy Defined.—In this resolution, the term “conversion therapy” means any practice by a licensed mental health provider, health care provider, or counselor that seeks or purports to impose change of an individual’s sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression, including reducing or eliminating sexual or romantic attractions or feelings toward a person of the same gender and efforts to change behaviors, gender identity, or gender expression. Such term does not include counseling that—

(1)(A) provides acceptance, support, and understanding of a person;

(B) facilitates a person’s coping, social support, and identity exploration and development;

(C) provides developmentally appropriate counseling for a person undergoing gender transition; or

(D) provides sexual orientation- and gender identity-neutral interventions to prevent or address unlawful conduct or unsafe sexual practices; and

(2) does not seek to change sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression.

White House Response to Petition on Conversion Therapy

whitehouseresponseIn December of 2014, Leelah Alcorn, a young transgender woman in southern Ohio wrote a message that appeared online posthumously after her suicide. In the message she attributed a significant portion of her despair to attempts by her family and church to fix her gender identity using what is known as conversion or reparative therapy. She called for those reading to “Fix Society” so that others like her might have productive lives. At age 17, she had already lost that hope.

Leelah’s message touched hearts around the world. The Transgender Human Rights Institute, working with several other organizations (including Everything Transgender NYC and Trans-parenting) sponsored a pair of online petitions through Change.org and We the People calling for an end to conversion treatments that have the goal of changing a subject’s sexual orientation or gender identity, with special emphasis on protecting young people. Both petitions exceeded their signature goals.
In their official petition response statement of April 8, 2015, the White House joined with accredited health organizations, and several state governments in condemning the practice of coercive conversion treatment. The White House called on families to be accepting and more supportive of their LGBTQI+ children and asked state governments to ban conversion treatments by licensed therapists.

https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/response/response-your-petition-conversion-therapy [Read more…]

United We stand

I was inspired by Leelahs story and signed the petition @ change.org. unfortunately GLBT youth in our country are unfairly treated and face higher rates of drug use, suicide, child abuse, childhood sexual abuse, isolation and marginalization.

Where I’m from, New York, we are currently fighting to have Erin’s Law passed. Erin’s laws are legislated at the state level and create programs and educational protocols for K-12 public school student to teach them about how to prevent, report and understand what sexual abuse is in order to reduce the growing rate of abuse cases nationwide.

I have created a petition on change.org to support Erin Merryn and her tireless work to pass Erin’s laws nationwide by starting here in New York and I hope to join her in her advocacy campaign soon. If you would like to help please sign the petition. the link is below:

https://www.change.org/p/sheldon-silver-tell-the-ny-state-assembly-s-committee-on-education-to-pass-erin-merryn-s-law

For Leelah

I’m straight and have a lot of gay friends here in my life. I really wish I can be there for Leelah and give her my comfort hugs. And wish she still alive. I’m still angry toward her parents. I want to give my comfort hugs to Leelah’s friends, I know it’s very hard to accept her suicide. Now she’s your guardian angel. Try to make picture of her (I love the picture of her with an angel wings- very beautiful) and put it in the photo frame. Put it aside on the night stand. And small photo in your billions or purse. To keep memories alive in your heart. I love you all of Leelah’s friends.

Actually I’m female. Tomboy all my life at school, play sports. Now I’m 53 years old, still dressed tomboy style. I don’t care if people look at me. F**k them. By the way I have many many friends. Mostly hearing people. I’m deaf and hated deaf people, they cause drama against me. Long story to say.

Hope one day I will meet Leelah in heaven. Can’t wait.

R.I.P. Leelah. <3

People can hate me all they want

People can hate me all they want for my efforts to pursue my happiness, they aren’t the ones who got born in this birth defect of a body – I am a 35 year old transwoman in the long, painful process of transition. I was terrified of saying anything to my family for years due to a fear of being disowned and losing the only support I have since I’m also disabled. Plus the fear of being murdered by a hateful society didn’t help. That fear held me back from transitioning for a long time, I didn’t manage to begin HRT until this past April. My family now knows and they are thankfully supportive, hard to say with my sister though and while I’ve had to put up with a lot of transphobia from many where I live, others have been supportive. Years of being forced to be male since early childhood though and from being forced to be male in things like video games for years on end has resulted in a strong physical and emotional distress from being forced, demanded and addressed to as male. I’m a woman, I can’t help that my body was born wrong. So many who are trans* are forced to suffer because of the stigma and hatred there is towards the trans* community, from radical feminists groups ensuring that our rights are denied to religious groups trying to force us to be what they demand and forcing conversion therapy on us. It has to stop, it must stop.We are human beings who yearn and ache to be able to live our lives as ourselves, we are not ‘freaks’, we are not ‘things’, we are human beings. We are daughters, sons, wives, husbands, mothers, fathers, we are real people who just want and need to be true to ourselves. Trans* youth need the support and guidance to be able to be who they know they are, and trans* adults need the same help and guidance to be who they know they are. Too many of our trans* sisters and brothers have died, so many lives have been ended because of hatred, bigotry, damaging ideals, misinformation, oppression, violence and many other means. We are fellow human beings, please let us live. No more hate.
~Reina~